By Diane Cole and Scott Wetzler

Is It You or Is It Me?
Why Couples Play the Blame Game

Harper Collins, 1998

Diane Cole and Scott Wetzler, like John Bradshaw previously, make established family systems theory accessible to the public. Learn how your childhood family affects your expectations and, in turn, what you see in your partner. Moving forward, Is It You or Is It Me? invites the reader to reclaim these projections and define healthy boundaries within a relationship.

Note, there is a helpful reference: pp 69-71 ‘Rules for a Fair Fight’.