By John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Three Rivers Press, 1999

This is an encouraging read for any couple wishing to identify positive strategies to improve their intimacy. After describing “Four Horsemen” (Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling) which he warns couples resort to at their peril, Gottman offers seven valuable principles to use in their stead. These lay the groundwork for many practical strategies offered to readers to put into practice together at home. The exercises are clear, easy-to-follow, and fun to review. Keep a pen-and-paper handy, commit an hour together every week to discuss another chapter and you will be greatly rewarded. I highly recommend this book to any couple wishing to improve a committed relationship in which they recognize bad habits are developing.

~ Stephen Douglas, 2006